Tips for overcoming the fear of the paediatrician

A visit to the paediatrician is an important moment for you and your child alike; whether it is a routine check-up, an urgent appointment, or a vaccination, some children dread this moment and may even be frightened of seeing the paediatrician. As they grow up, children become aware of what happens there and often come to associate "doctor" with "pain". Here are some tips to help your child overcome their worries and conquer their fear of the paediatrician.

Explanations

You should make a habit of letting your child know about the upcoming appointment with the paediatrician, but without telling them too far in advance as this risks building up their anxiety. Simply prepare them and take the time to address their worries and questions.

It is important to explain the reason for the visit and what will happen. A child has every right to feel apprehensive and worried, and this must be accepted. It is vital not to scold them or belittle them with remarks like "Stop being a baby" — this risks upsetting them and causing them to dig in their heels completely.

Explain things using simple words — even if your child is still a baby, it is important to help them understand that the paediatrician is kind, that they are there to help keep them well, and that they will not hurt them.

Managing your own anxieties

Children are like sponges and absorb their parents' emotions, including their fears; if you yourself are afraid of going to the doctor or have a phobia of needles, it is perfectly natural and understandable that your child will share that anxiety. Try to keep your own emotions in check, and if it is too difficult to hold yourself together, hand over to your partner or to a family member your child feels comfortable and safe with.

Make the paediatrician your ally

Your paediatrician is on your side, so you can let them know about your child's fears at the appointment, so that they can be even more patient and gentle, and draw on their own tricks!

A story to help them open up

There are children's books that address the "fear of the doctor". These help children put words to their fear, show them that they are not alone in feeling anxious, and demonstrate that they are capable of overcoming it. A book often helps a child to externalise their feelings and express them more easily.

Trust yourself and reassure your child as much as possible — sooner or later, they will manage to conquer their fear.